Sex and love addicts anonymous group boulder

Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity?Дo you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex?Дo you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean to?Дoes your sexual and/or romantic behavior affect your reputation?Дo you have sex and/or 'relationships' to try to deal with, or escape from life's problems?Дo you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it?Дo you engage in the practice of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc. Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner?Дo you believe that the problems in your 'love life' result from continuing to remain with the 'wrong' person? the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS, etc.)?Дo you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships?Дo you feel that your only (or major) value in a relationship is your ability to perform sexually, or provide an emotional fix?Дo you feel that you're not 'really alive' unless you are with your sexual / romantic partner?Дo you find yourself in a relationship that you cannot leave? Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you've had?Дo you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate? Have you ever felt that you had to have sex?Дo you believe that someone can 'fix' you?Дo you keep a list, written or otherwise, of the number of partners you've had?Дo you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or sexual partner? Have you had or do you have sex with someone you don't (didn't) want to have sex with?Дo you believe that sex and/or a relationship will make your life bearable? Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people?Дo you make promises to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow? Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone?Дo you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you?Дo you feel that you don't want anyone to know about your sexual or romantic activities?Дo you get 'high' from sex and/or romance? We hope that these questions will prove helpful. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is.

Many sex and love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signposts of sex and love addiction. Admitting personal powerlessness over this affliction, we cease our addictive behavior and turn to guidance from a Power greater than ourselves, make restitution for harm done to others, and reconstruct our lives physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. In S.L.A.A., we learn to accept the reality of having this addiction and surrender any notion that we can control it successfully on the basis of our unaided will. Sex and love addiction, if left unchecked, always gets worse.However, if we follow a simple program which has proved successful for scores of other men and women with the same illness, we can recover. An obsessive/compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional (or both), exists in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family and sense of self-respect. It may take several forms - including (but not limited to) a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one person (or many), and/or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue or fantasy. believe that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested.

Sex and love addicts anonymous group boulder